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25 July 2016

Be Young. Be Wild. Be Free.



I often forget just how young I actually am.
I mean I know I'm 22 but often I view it as over 18 rather than under 50 if that makes any sense.
As mentioned in my post "In Transition", right now I feel like I'm in between worlds; holding onto my youth while trying to figure out this adulting thing.
Tomorrow I'll be going on my first holiday in 3 years, (yep I know!), and it got me thinking that I need to make the most of where I am now because situations change as you get older.
So here's 10 things I reckon we should try to do while we're still young:

1. Travel. Travel. Travel.
It's just got to be done. Find the time, find the means and just go for it! Whether it be a weekend trip somewhere not too far or a 3 month stint across the globe just go! The world is way too big to just stay in one place, there's so much to see and do! And when I say travel, I don't really mean sit on the beach for 7 days, I mean explore the area, talk to the locals, see if you can pick up the language, eat the food and immerse yourself into the culture as much as you can. Whether the experience makes you grateful for where you're from or opens your eyes to the possibility of more travel, it'll be worth it!

2. Be alone, even if you're in a relationship. 
Now is the time to get to know yourself, hell it's always time to get to know yourself but now especially. Who are you? Finding the ability to be alone and not be lonely is something that I feel is important to learn while you're still young. Enjoy your own company, take yourself out to the cinema or for a drink; try doing #1 by yourself! Learn about your character, the good, the bad and the ugly and make adjustments where necessary. Whilst its a beautiful to develop a relationship with another person, be sure to develop the one with yourself.

3. Do something crazy!
For you crazy could mean sky diving or it could simply be wearing a colour that you'd told yourself is to daring for you! Step out of your comfort zone and do the things you secretly would love to but just don't have the balls to. Gotta have some good stories to tell the grand kids after all!

4. Learn a new skill.
Many people shy away from learning new skills from their 20s onwards often because they don't think they have the mental capacity to. Sure it might not be as easy to pick up piano now as it would have been when you were 7, but it's definitely not impossible. With patience and practice you can make anything happen. Cook, code, play a musical instrument, pick up a new language, learn to dance Salsa whatever you wanna do!

5. Cherish your loved ones
It's easy to forget that people may not be around forever and too often take those who care for us the most for granted. There are people who constantly go out of their way to make our lives a little better and its important that we acknowledge them. Make it a point to show the people you treasure that you appreciate them! It doesn't have to be extravagant; a simple message could be enough to add a little sunshine to someone's day.

6. Eat pizza!
Life is too short to be miserable! Have pizza, have a burger, enjoy your cheesecake! Not all day everyday, but once in a while give in to your body and let it have those things it craves. In my mind, as long as you're eating healthily at least 80% of the time, you can indulge a little for 20%. Life's all about balance and you should be fine as long as you

7. Exercise
Get your arse up and sweat a little. Walk, run, swim, play tennis, play football, dance, hula hoop, anything!! Taking care of your body now is one of the best things you can do for yourself because it only gets harder to begin as you get older. Adopt it into your routine now and you'll reap the benefits later.

8. Forgive others, forgive yourself.
Dwelling on the mistakes of others and yourself is exhausting. I know its easier said than done sometimes but it's the most freeing thing you can do for yourself. Anger towards other people eventually affects you way more than it affects them and you end up suffering even more. Additionally, holding on to guilt and disappointment stop you from moving forward in the best way possible. We all make mistakes, even the best people; take the lessons and leave the bitterness and you'll be way better off. Let go and let God; allow yourself to be free!

9. Say no
You can't please everyone, it's just impossible. You are allowed to say no. You're allowed to not answer your phone when you need time to yourself, to not go to everything you're invited to, to not do every favour that's asked of you, to tell your manager you simply cannot take on any more. You are just one human and I know you might want to help everyone and spread your time as wide as you can but sometimes you have to say no to others and say yes to yourself. It's not selfish, it's survival. Obviously if you never follow through with plans people will stop asking for example. but taking some time for yourself and being honest about what you can and cannot to, or what you do/don't want to do is more than fair and in fact healthy.

10. Have fun!
Granted, if you're in the 20-30 age bracket like, essentially you're in the hardest grind of your life, trying to set yourself up for the future you want. Whether this be working a 9-5, trying to establish your own business or simply just figuring it out - right now a lot of your time is going towards building. Well you know what they say; work hard, play hard! If you're putting in work majority of the time, then you definitely should also take some time to enjoy your youth before you wake up one day a bitter old person. I'm not saying turn up at the club every Friday, but spend some time with friends, have a laugh and maybe a cheeky cocktail too. The journey in itself is tough, its essential to enjoy yourself along the way.

Stay Blessed,
Selorm
xo.

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